UPDATE: As the holiday season approaches, a unique trend is emerging in Christmas cards as families navigate changing dynamics, particularly amid divorces. A recent inquiry to advice columnist Eric Thomas highlights the challenges facing those sending out cards during this emotionally charged time.
With divorce proceedings anticipated to finalize just weeks after Christmas, one reader grapples with how to present her new family identity in holiday greetings. After being separated from her husband of 25 years, this mother of four expresses concern about including him in the festive card. Additionally, she plans to revert to her maiden name, prompting the need for a thoughtful announcement.
Thomas suggests several options for wording that balances class and humor. Phrases like, “There’s a new name, and a new family arrangement, but the warm wishes are the same,” aim to convey positivity while acknowledging the change. He also proposes a lighthearted approach with, “Is it regifting when Santa brings you your maiden name for Christmas?” These ideas could resonate with families facing similar situations.
The emotional impact of divorce during the holiday season cannot be understated. While some advise against sharing such news in holiday greetings, Thomas emphasizes that it is ultimately the sender’s choice. “Holiday cards often encompass the full breadth of what goes on in a year—love, loss, and all the rest,” he states, encouraging transparency.
For those unsure, a simple solution may be to send a photo of the mother with her children and their pet cat, signed with her maiden name. This invites questions without explicitly announcing the divorce, allowing recipients to connect directly if they wish.
As families navigate their own unique circumstances, the conversation around holiday cards continues to evolve. Readers are invited to share their experiences and ideas for announcing similar changes in their holiday communications. Thomas plans to compile these insights for future columns, fostering a sense of community among those adjusting to new family structures.
This developing trend illustrates the need for sensitivity and creativity during the holidays. As families redefine their identities, the messages they share can reflect both change and continuity, resonating deeply with recipients.
For more insight and advice, readers can reach out to Eric Thomas at [email protected] or via mail at P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110. Follow him on Instagram and subscribe to his weekly newsletter at rericthomas.com for ongoing discussions about navigating life’s transitions.
