Elisabeth Strillacci, a former editor and reporter for the *Salisbury Post*, recently shared poignant reflections on the nature of memory and the passage of time. Her insights were sparked by a conversation with a friend who expressed concern about balancing work commitments with family life. Strillacci drew inspiration from the song “Dear Time,” by Jackson Browne, Alison Brown, and Steve Martin, which explores the bittersweet reality of life’s fleeting moments.
The song’s refrain, “Look what I’ve collected, a little box of memories, somewhat disconnected, tied with twine,” resonated with Strillacci, prompting her to emphasize that life is not experienced in a straightforward manner. Instead, she describes life as a collection of moments, akin to photographs displayed in a dark room. As individuals reflect on their past, they often find a wealth of experiences tucked away in their minds, forming a rich tapestry of memories.
Strillacci reassured her friend that despite his dedication to work, he is providing invaluable time to his family that he might not fully appreciate at the moment. “You are still adding to the box,” she said, highlighting that it is not yet time for him to sift through those memories. When that moment arrives, he will be overwhelmed with the significance of both monumental events and countless small, everyday interactions with his loved ones.
As people age, they frequently remark on how swiftly time seems to pass. For parents, watching their children grow can intensify this feeling, as daily responsibilities and the progression of life accelerate. Strillacci notes that while it can be difficult to let go as children begin to carve their own paths, it is essential for their development. She emphasizes that the memories shared become foundational elements in their own collections of snapshots.
Reflecting on her personal experience, Strillacci acknowledges that while some memories may fade over time, they remain integral to one’s life story. “It’s OK to have a varied and changing collection in the box of memories,” she states, underscoring the importance of cherishing both the joyful and challenging moments.
As she continues to create new memories, Strillacci feels a sense of gratitude for the past and recognizes the beauty in her collection of experiences. The lyrics of “Dear Time” encapsulate her sentiments perfectly: “Thank you for the extra heartbeats. I’m not so sure I earned them.”
In the fast-paced journey of life, Strillacci suggests that it is crucial to pause and appreciate the myriad moments that shape our existence. Ultimately, looking back allows individuals to see the majestic journey they have undertaken, filled with both triumphs and trials. It is through this lens that one can truly value the significance of every snapshot gathered along the way.
