In a recent inquiry to the advice column “Dear Abby,” a Texas couple faces a significant decision regarding their son’s request for an early inheritance. The 50-year-old son, currently selling his company valued between $7 million and $8 million, claims he is cash poor, prompting his request for his share of the inheritance now, rather than waiting for the couple’s passing.
The 80-year-old father expressed surprise at the request, as it challenges traditional expectations surrounding inheritance. While the couple is financially stable and could potentially accommodate their son’s request, they would need to deplete their savings and liquidate some investments to do so. This raises questions about the propriety of such a request and its impact on their other children.
Financial Advice Recommended
In response, Abigail Van Buren, the voice behind “Dear Abby,” advised the father to consult with a lawyer, a certified public accountant (CPA), and a financial advisor before making any decisions. She also cautioned against involving the other children at this stage, suggesting that it could lead to familial discord.
Van Buren emphasized the importance of professional guidance in financial matters, particularly given the implications of early inheritance on family dynamics and financial planning. The father’s concerns about whether to feel offended by the request highlight the emotional complexities involved in family finances.
Additional Inquiries Highlight Personal Challenges
In a separate letter from a reader in Michigan, another personal struggle was brought to light. A man described his tumultuous marriage, citing feelings of disrespect and neglect from his wife. Despite his commitment to counseling, he feels increasingly isolated, particularly as family issues, including enabling a drug-addicted son and his children to reside with them, create further tension.
In her response, Van Buren recommended that the man discuss his situation with his therapist. She implied that if his therapist is encouraging him to endure his current state of unhappiness, it may be time to seek a new professional opinion. This advice reflects a broader concern about mental health and the importance of supportive relationships.
Another letter from a Canadian woman, who works as a housekeeper, expressed frustration over comments regarding her fast walking pace. At 69, she feels her energetic demeanor is often met with unsolicited remarks from colleagues, which she finds annoying. Van Buren suggested that rather than responding defensively, the woman should embrace her pace and view it as an asset to her work ethic.
These inquiries illustrate a range of personal dilemmas, from financial decisions to marital strife and workplace dynamics. “Dear Abby,” founded by Pauline Phillips and currently written by her daughter, Abigail Van Buren, continues to serve as a platform for individuals seeking advice on navigating complex life situations.
For more insights and advice, individuals can contact “Dear Abby” through their website at www.DearAbby.com or via traditional mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
